Sanjay Sabarwal's Blog

It amazes me that the 2021 ends in 10 days. It feels like a whirlwind or maybe I just say as I get closer to major milestones in my life (50 here I come), or it could be that I set on a new path without the family business as a safety net, I learned, grew, made mistakes, grew some more, and learned many ways not to do something, and then next thing I know 2021 is almost over.

And yet even with all this change, I look forward to what there is to come. I don’t want the same year again, but neither do I want a tumultuous year. I do know that things take time especially when planting seeds in new areas. I also have no idea what will come out of my efforts, but the main thing I am sure of is that my support system stays strong, my loved ones blanket me with their well wishes, and advice, my wife holds my hand even I am unsure of the next step, my mom and sisters are there to give advice (and plenty of it), my friends are here to listen to me, or talk to me, or teach me.

And so as I barrel towards 2022, I don’t feel out of control. Instead, I feel I am picking up speed as the way becomes more familiar. I look forward to the ride!

My heart is full. So much so that I cannot see the world as anything but one of giving, love, and appreciation. This past thursday, I held my very first holiday party for Sabarwal Law, and I was simply amazed as the diversity of people who came. From old clients, colleagues, dear friends, family and vendors, I was blown away at how many made the effort. But what made it the best event was the amount of time my wife and sister spent to make my simple idea into an grand event. I am in awe of how much support I have from my wife and loved ones. I truly felt blessed.

That was just the beginning to the weekend as we went out to other events, connected with crossfit friends, family friends, dear friends, old friends, and as tired as we were Sunday event, we still managed to spend intimate time with loved ones, and wake up on Monday with a fullness of life and looking forward to what it has to offer. It is these times that matter that carry me through the difficult ones, the times when I think I am alone when really my people are just steps away from me. I just have to remove my blinders and see that so many care for like like I do for them.

This past weekend proved that beyond a shadow of a doubt. I can’t wait to see what’s next!

Happy Monday!

It is never a great feeling when expectations and hopefulness override reality. You get set up for failure when you need something from someone incapable of meeting that desire. I realize that I let wishful thinking take over. I also failed to set boundaries and then act surprised when the other person crosses them.

I don’t mean to be vague, but it is a pattern in my life. Far too often, I allow people in my life take importance in a way and time that could be better spent with the ones who want my support and love. I am far too quick to allow some people leeway that hasn’t been earned but gotten through other relationships. We lack an emotional foundation. We borrow love and caring from other relationships and assume that is enough.

It’s become clear that when I take shortcuts in relationship building, I am setting myself up to get short circuited. When there is a lack of understanding in each others values, there is a greater chance of feeling devalued. To feel like I am giving far too much, and creating an imbalance because the other person is either incapable or unwilling to reciprocate.

And so I go back to gratitude for the ones in my life who match or outdo me in their willingness to be in service, love, support and empathy for each other. And take a pause from the ones who just don’t and so I let go.

In the bright morning sun permeating my office, it’s easy to see clearly everything here, but internally I am even clearer. As the long weekend fades into memories, I can’t help feel grateful for how much I have, or how rich I am. It’s easy to get lost in the game of making money, paying bills, and looking to climb the next step in life, and not take the time to take in all my wealth.

One of the things I truly appreciate is that as much negativity surrounds us now, we will get a chance to celebrate the good days, the people in our lives, and appreciate what we have. I get it, maybe it ritualized, stale or cliche, but you know what giving thanks is something I’d keep as part of my life no matter how others feel. That’s not to say that I am looking down on others, just that gratitude works for me. It grounds me. Allows me to take stock and know where I really am in my station in life.

I can be quite hard on myself, but this past weekend, being able to be around so many loved ones, to see how much effort is put in to make others seen, loved, I began to relax and be present and take in the moments for what they were for. Was everything perfect? No, it was as it should. Were there missed connections? Chances to be better. Harsher words than intended. Of course. It’s what makes it a family. But what mattered most of all is everyone willingness and eagerness to be around each other.

And it hits me that as this month draws to a close, and I begin the last month of 2021, I was so much to look forward to, so much still to learn, and to be grateful for. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Happy Monday!

This past weekend was a mixture of learning new and familiar concepts in Family Law, and it hit me that I get jolt of adrenaline as I find new ways to help my clients. Instead of the darkness of not knowing on what to do, I suddenly found a torchlight that allows me to lead my clients to other other side and to closure. Let’s get it right, there is no winning or losing in Family Law. There is just the beginning, the middle and finally closure. That’s what I tell my clients because I am not interested in dragging things out just for the heck of it.

But back to learning. I also love my MasterClass, and my podcasts (most Joe Rogan). and then my New Yorker, Mens Health, and Scientific American, along with my barbell and crossfit coaches, I am surrounded my knowledge, tips, and paths to keep growing. And the learning continues with my wife, family and in laws. The kind of learning that teaches me to be a better version of myself, to be empathetic, to be present and open and on and on.

And then it hits me that life is learning and if and when I am stop then I should prepare for mediocrity or the end of my consciousness. The thought frightens me not because I am afraid of death, but because I want to live the best version of myself.

Happy Monday!

In the quiet of my office, I can finally process the weekend. Rest and recovery out of the question as we celebrated a dear friend, got to experience our first Friends Giving, and finally had a chance to spend some quality time with our niece and another close friend of mine and his partner.

I never quite know how to answer when people ask me how my weekend was. For the past few months, there has no free days to just do nothing, or rest, or do anything not created by someone else. And the word that comes to mind is grateful, and blessed which turns into sentence of being surrounded by so many who care about us, bathing us with their time and attention.

There was a time I looked forward to different types of events and people, participated in what I thought to be lifelong activities like promotion, events, selling music, connecting with music industry folks and on a path to creating a record label. It all seems so foolish now, but then again I gained so much from doing all that. It is a foundational part of me allowing me a network of people and ideas helped me grow in unique ways.

And so in this morning quiet, I sit amazed at the changes in my life where health, family, mariage, friendship, and business fill up my days, and my soul. A different life than what I imagined, but do not wish to change in any way at all. Yes weekends are full, time feels shorter and shorter, so many people I need to connect with, but I wouldnt have it any other way.

Happy Birthday again Megha. Great seeing you Raj, and of course to am amazing start of the weekend with my BNI crew but most importantly having my wife by my side throughout all of it. I am a lucky man indeed.

Happy Monday!